Loneliness Is Contagious But You Don’t Have to Catch It

Some people aren’t even aware that ‘loneliness’ is at the root of their issues with weight, lack of motivation, depression and self-destruction.

People who are self destructive 

  • punish themselves for negative internal dialogue
  • hide from whatever reminds them they are not true to their own spirit
  • are often confused about how to be truly joyful
  • live in a way that is not open
  • actively hide from themselves – although they appear to be rejecting others
  • are generally not receptive to thoughts or ideas of others
  • either avoid contact with people OR  ‘over surround’ themselves with stimulation (i.e. social interactions mainly on surface levels – lacking depth of conversation)
  • participate in social circles with strict boundaries – permitting only those who won’t question or ‘rock the boat’ into their space
  • trust nobody

Loneliness is an internal experience – and is maintained when one perpetuates the villain/victim/savior scenario.

When the circle of friends is overwhelmingly made up of people to whom the individual feels either indebted OR superior, there is a red flag that self-esteem issues are at hand. People who have difficulty establishing professional boundaries are often doing themselves and their ‘clients’ a disservice.

If a person you care deeply for seems to fit any description here, recommending mental health support may or may not be appreciated – but it is worth a try.  Stay available, don’t take that person’s neglect of your friendship personally, and recognize that he or she is doing the best that she or he can.

The best you may be able to do is to wait patiently. For YOU it is important to avoid getting sucked into the toxic triangle that this type of person inevitably tries to pull you into.  Maintain your balance, minimize contact (if the person refuses mental health support) and remain available in case that person ‘awakens’ from the self-destructive patterns of behavior.

Click here to read more on this topic of loneliness and how to safely dissolve it.

Click here for a wonderful TED video.

If You Are Taking A Prescribed Medication For Stomach Acid (PPI) This Is Worth Reading

Contact:  (917) 716-6802    By Appointment Only

Stomach distress and heartburn are not fun and may significantly impact your quality of life.

When these symptoms are treated as ‘problems’ rather than as ‘flags’ signaling greater problems, then the APPROACH to treatment becomes an additional cause for concern.

Dr. Susan Kolb  treats reflux by addressing the fungal overgrowth. She explains that she uses, “Nystatin oral solution to kill yeast affecting the cardiac valve along with Heartburn Free, a supplement that causes the valve to work better (orange peel extract) with good success.”  She avoids some of the popular prescriptions, noting that, “[r]educing acid with H2 blockers over time increases food allergies as well.”

Her approach recognizes that, “[w]hen amino acids do not get absorbed, one gets degenerative disc disease, rotator cuff issues, and other problems.” Her patient population is a unique group, “. . .  that is toxic from silicone and 100% of them have yeast overgrowth as well as malabsorption problems.” She uses Calorad or a broad amino acid supplement in many [of her] patients [and she addresses] the dysbiosis in the gut [that causes] leaky gut. All patients with immune deficiencies including those on chemoRx are at risk for these problems.”

Her entire approach to inflammation is wonderfully refreshing.  Feel free to look her up online.

Reminders as we continue with this discussion:

  • The mind often communicates with us through the body (i.e. anxiety, stomach issues, muscle tension etc).
  • The body communicates with us through pain and fever.
  • When we treat the ‘flags’ or ‘symptoms’ as if they are the actual problem, we risk silencing the valuable communication system, throwing off our mind/body/ spirit balance.

For more about how these bottom lines came to be, click here for Part 1, click here for Part 2, click here for Part 3.

The focus of this blog – Part 4:  

  • How the complex digestive system calls attention to itself
  • Evidence-based approaches to address underlying imbalances expressed

Gas, bloating, acid-reflux, “IBS” & “GERD”  FLAGS & SYMPTOMS often misunderstood & treated as if  they are the cause

Functional medicine addresses root causes.  As we age, our stomach experiences symptoms from naturally decreased acid (hypochlorhydria). Supplements may help.  Click here for an explanation and details about why and how.

When your symptoms include gas, bloating, and other discomfort of the stomach, and you are told “You have IBS”  (irritable bowel syndrome), the ROOT CAUSE is still yet to be addressed. Conventional medicine, however, stops at the diagnosis and prescribes an antacid, as if to ‘treat’ the symptoms.

Symptoms can’t be ‘treated’ . . . they can only be ‘masked’

Part of the approach functional medical doctor Dr. Mark Hyman MD takes includes analyzing food choices along with body responses, as well as the balance of bacteria that are present in the ‘gut’ of the individual patient. He addresses the ’cause’ and uses ‘symptoms’ to flag and guide.

Before offering a treatment, and certainly before prescribing a pharmaceutical medication, these factors are carefully assessed by functional medicine, and then addressed.  Click here to read more about how Dr. Hyman treats IBS.

Dr. Andrew Weil MD also offers interventions that include a wide range of evidence-based approaches to help patients heal stomach issues. If you are interested in herbal interventions, in addition to the other evidence-based recommendations he has to offer, click here.

The integrative medicine approach to GERD is to avoid PPIs (i.e  Prilosec, Prevacid, Nexium, click here for a more complete list) and to actually wean patients who are on them, OFF.  Click here for the current thinking and detailed rationale. As with ‘functional medicine’, the integrative medical approach addresses lifestyle, including diet and exercise, as well as what the patient’s body presents with (i.e. degree of stomach acid, organisms in the gut).

Pros and cons of over-the-counter and prescription antacids: The bottom line is that, while soothing of the symptoms does occur, long term use of these products is now known to contribute to bone fractures. Click here for research out of Forsyth Institute.

The above essay highlights ways in which your digestive system communicates with you through symptoms. It also suggests how functional and integrative approaches address the true causes, recognizing the importance of listening to rather than silencing the sophisticated ‘alert system’ your body has in place.

The bottom line is that there are many causes and ways of dealing with stomach issues.  When medication is the ONLY approach used and/or first line approach, the risks may outweigh the benefits.

Speak to your health provider about the information in this article and then, together with your provider, make decisions that are in the best interest of your mind/body/spirit balance.   It is your life.  Your journey.  Your body.  Here’s to your health.  ~Dr. Iankowitz

Additional resources:

About the Author: Dr. Iankowitz is an ANCC board certified advanced practice nurse, in private practice as founder and Director of Holistic and Integrative Healing LLC.  Dr. Iankowitz is the editor and author of several articles and books, and founder of Universe’Secretary.

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The Mind/ Body/ Spirit Connection and Internal Communication To Facilitate Balance

Contact:  (917) 716-6802    By Appointment Only

The mind, body and spirit convey powerful messages through an intricate and very delicate communication system. The network includes, comfort, discomfort, anxiety, pain, fever and a host of other experiences that enrich life.

Some people carry anxiety in their necks or backs; that is, when we have a back pain, it might represent a structural issue (a trip to the chiropractor for diagnosis and treatment might help), OR indicate emotional tension, poor posture at the computer or dinner table, or might even be signaling a problem stemming from an internal organ (a trip to the doctor might be in order).  How can YOU tell what your own body is trying to express?

Click here to read about how the body communicates, how we can learn to listen, and what we can do to answer the call.

There Is A Cure – But You Must First Recognize The Condition

“Gas lighting” is just a symptom. It signals there may be a disorder which, once identified, may be treated.

If you read this far you might be wondering about a name or diagnosis that can dissolve the ‘problem’ – and that curiosity is healthy.  It suggests that you are interested in taking control – even if it is frightening to even entertain a thought that maybe you or a dearly adored loved one is afflicted.  There are tips to help, and resources to guide. Read on.

It began when your son married a woman who refused to permit him to call you.  (If so, click here) or maybe your brother now insists he can’t talk to you or even mention your name to his new wife because she is jealous, private or painfully shy. In fact, that is the reason offered for why they broke their plans on New Year’s Eve or couldn’t make it – at the last minute, to the family gathering.

It began as little hints that became clear only in retrospect. (Click here for additional information). As you review the pattern, you realize that the first step was: isolation and alienation of family members who asked too many questions.

Point: Until family members learn how to effectively help the afflicted member, they  typically tread very quietly and carefully around that person, don’t seek clarification, insist that nobody ‘rock the boat’ and basically behave as if they are prisoners in their own home.

In your case, you realize that, when invited to your home, they showed up late – more and more often until someone from that family was elected to ultimately call to cancel visits altogether. When asked about what happened, the elected representative offered what you now recognize to have been lies. (Click here for tools that may help).

For the next few years, that part of the family made only ‘social obligation’ appearances, then fabricated reasons why they couldn’t get together with the rest of the family at all.  They may have even gone out of their way to fill time slots during upcoming holidays or anticipated birthday or graduation events. They might have even offered to work special holidays or overtime, just so their excuse would be valid. Click here if you were no longer considered ‘nuclear family’ because you refused to walk on eggshells.

Your situation may have progressed to their refusal to accept phone calls, or they may ignore emails. You may believe they hope you just stop trying. You love them unconditionally, and may begin to think you did something wrong. Unfortunately, without the proper perspective and tools, if you reach out to try to find out what you did, the effort might not be fruitful. You might even be faulted for reaching out too much.

Perhaps this was the pattern, or perhaps you are experiencing pieces of it now.  Do you believe you might be in the middle of this nightmare?  If so,  help is available. You have already taken the first step:  recognition and questioning . . . read on. (Click here for advice on how to help a person suffering with this disorder).

This unfortunate scenario is a result of: Borderline Personality Disorder. Almost every family I know has at least one person with an extreme personality issue either in this or a related  category and, while we all experience occasional traits here and there, those afflicted with this particular disorder successfully surround themselves with enablers who sadly – even if well meaning, often become consumed by the toxicity.  The men in the lives of women suffering with BPD are traumatized and abused (as was indicated by a previous link).

Again, while we all relate to aspects of the villain/ victim/ savior scenario a few scattered times throughout our lifetime, people who suffer with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) function within this scenario as a daily routine.  It defines them and they default to defining others by it. They see the world through this distorted lens 100% of the time.

To those afflicted with BPD, every person must be placed in the role of either villain or savior while the one with BPD remains ‘victim’ – with an occasional redefinition to the ‘savior’ role, when absolutely necessary; for example, in the case wherein an enabler becomes a ‘victim’ during times of illness, accident or job-related difficulties, the person with BPD can become the ‘savior’.  While in this role, however, as ‘savior’ of the newly assigned ‘victim’ the person with BPD finds a way to reclaim the role of victim to those with whom communication is  secretly maintained. The person with BPD often states how difficult it is to care for or about the one recovering from injury or illness.  After all, the enabler was supposed to be the savior.  Now what?

Clues that help you figure out if you or other family members or friends are enabling the behavior:  enablers are the people who ‘excuse’ the one who has this disorder with labels such as ‘private’ and ‘shy’ – defending the ill person’s continued efforts to isolate, alienate, ignore & offend others.

Toxicity trumps all. If an enabler becomes injured or ill, that person has an interesting set of new circumstances to deal with. Click here to read more about that dynamic.  It is not uncommon for the enabler to become emotionally exhausted. If this happens, the enabler might refer to outside sources as ‘the villain’ so that the enabler and the one suffering with BPD can ‘unite’ against the common enemy as joint victims/ saviors.

The good news is that BPD can be successfully addressed, treated and maybe even cured by a skilled mental health professional, but only if the ‘patient’  is willing,  and has LOTS of family support and cooperation to set healthy boundaries. The supportive people learn how to not give in to unreasonable demands or tantrums by providing a gentle, consistent, reassuring and firm environment.  Family members can indeed help facilitate healing if they are willing and able to learn to accurately and non-judgmentally reflect the patient back to him/her self.

The sad news is, unless there are family members who are seriously dedicated to helping to heal this disorder, it can become a quicksand of toxicity capable of driving other family members to the brink of nervous breakdown.

Q: How do you know when you need to seek help so you can heal?

A: When it takes over aspects of your life, interfering with family gatherings etc., you need to pay close attention.

As  indicated above, we ALL have bits & pieces of many personality traits. The issue becomes apparent when isolation, alienation, teaming up, pitting against, splitting apart, turning others against, etc., are accompanied by that toxic villain/ victim/ savior (“us against them” or “me against you”) scenario, and when it is so deeply experienced that it breaks relationships apart.

Read more about how to help yourself and loved ones so that you can reclaim joy, comfort, peace and love:

Resource for help with BPD

How can I stop enabling this behavior?

Old Tapes That Need Review

Is Your Adult Child Borderline?

Here’s to your health, happiness, healing and balance of your mind, body and spirit.

Three Simple Steps To Write Your Own Life Script

Step #1  Identify what gives you joy & what blocks your joy

Step #2  Self-reflect honesty to discover your true potential

Step #3  Decide where you want to put your energy

Keep in mind that there are distractions along your journey to writing your own life script but YOU are in charge of the story.  It is the story of YOUR life.

Recognize that finding your center permits the Universe to channel wisdom that you already have inside of you.  Survival mechanisms are in place to save your life which, if misused, threaten your inner balance.  One example is described below:

Fight/flight vs. Meditation. While the fight/flight response helps protect us from physical danger, the meditative response protects us from spiritual attack.  Think about it.

The fight/flight response distracts from internal healing and resolution. It is as inappropriate a response to a bad mood as would be sitting in a lotus position in deep meditation on a train track when there is an oncoming train speeding in your direction.

Once you identify Steps #1-3, recognize that the secret to YOUR fulfillment is within you. Click here  for the LinkedIn version of a road map to tap into your wisdom and joy.

Namaste and continued blessings along your journey.

How To Earn and Build Trust with Loved Ones


 

You mean well. Your intentions are sincere, and yet they may undercut trust or pave the way to a ‘salt-on-wound’ experience for you as well as for the unprepared recipient.

Always honor questions as effort on the part of the other person to seek clarification.  When the assumption is that the other person is deliberately trying to trick, trap, distract or otherwise ‘set you up’, trust is missing. Missing trust suggests one or both of these:  (1) either YOU can’t be trusted (thus, you trust nobody ever) and/or (2) the other person can’t or shouldn’t be trusted.

Understanding comes from minds meeting.  In order to be on the same page with another person, thoughts need to be shared. Trust comes from a feeling of safety – but sometimes people settle for ‘predictability’ . . . even if what is ‘predicted’ is uncomfortable.  (This suggests a ‘don’t-rock-the-boat’ relationship which leans towards ‘handling’ and ‘tolerating’ rather than sharing trust.  Read more by clicking here).

Another ‘trust-busting’ point to keep in mind:  ‘just’, ‘simple’ and ‘simply’   are three words which, if carelessly placed, may devastate a listener or poison a budding friendship by undercutting trust.

Sounds ridiculous?  Read on . . .

Depending on your timing as well as the status of your relationship, emotional development of the individual to whom your ideas are addressed, and/or the situation, these are the first of a long list of words which, if used carelessly, tend to ‘make less of’ the efforts of another OR, possibly may indicate that the other ‘should’ have understood/ made connections/ followed your line of thought etc.  This attitude can poison a well or devastate a raw or sensitive listener – especially if that person is currently going through a traumatic healing experience (and more people than you might imagine are. Read more here).

If you belittle the prospective friend when that person seeks clarification, what does this really say about YOU?  The one who belittles another often uses words, vibration, glances, posture, actions etc. to establish power ‘over’ the other in the relationship.  This ego-driven individual is not ready for a trusting relationship.

How does this behavior impact the prospective friendship? Abuse of boundaries and words undercuts trust. The relationship may dissolve or continue to be built on a foundation of distrust – which includes defensive, thick boundaries and heavily guarded walls of self-protection.

Have you ever said or heard the following: “But I’m just trying to ‘help’ you gain perspective. I try to comfort you by saying, ‘Just move on’  . . .”   OR  “I try to make you the best you can be so I . . . ”

WRONG APPROACH.

After several years of having earned trust we cut more slack, take chances, make allowances for, and often overlook poor choices made by loved ones. When building a new relationship, we have no shared history to lean on. Trust must be earned. A feeling of safety develops over time.

There are indeed people who seem so well adjusted that poor word choices, errors we make and even traumatic life events didn’t / don’t seem to shake them. The ‘unshakable’ person might be truly centered (a state of balance worth striving for) OR might be so uncaring and well defended/ self-protective that nothing actually penetrates. Click here to read about signs/signals of emotional unavailability. The vibration reveals the reality. Click here to read about how to manifest a healthy relationship.  Trust your inner wisdom. Click here to read about how to earn your own trust through self-care and sharpening of time management skills.

When life deals a difficult blow, the centered individual usually has a sense of self-esteem and well developed sense of purpose, trusted support systems in place, is able to intuitively tap into internal wisdom for guidance, and seems to know just how to ‘float’ until the waters are either safer to swim OR the individual beaches on a safe shore.

For this healthy and centered individual, another person might not need to be so careful about words, tone, body posture or any other forms of communication during a casual acquaintanceship; however, if interested in earning that individual’s trust, building and/or mending a relationship, rules do change a bit.  To build a healthy relationship, there are key rules to follow: safe boundaries need to be drawn and respected, and clarification needs to be offered and sought – freely, without judgment.

Developing adolescents, (or adults ‘arrested’ in the adolescent stage of development – details click here), need to be treated with utmost care so as not to trample on the delicate development of self. To the young child, teen or developing adolescent, (or to an individual stuck at that stage of development) the wise intervention would not ever include statements such as: “You will just have to get over it”   OR   “Simply get through it the best way you can.”

There is no “JUST” and nothing is “SIMPLE” for the developing adolescent.

Before the personality is solidly formed (may be as early as 18 or as late as 25, when the brain slows down its mapping)  the only approach would be to help the individual get THROUGH the devastating life altering blow by offering coping tools that guide and enlighten through perspective.

Keep in mind that trust, support and unconditional love are necessary in order to facilitate a healthy and healing journey.

When an otherwise centered, mature, well adjusted person feels mistreated on any level – verbally or through the intangible vibration, this link might offer hints and tips to cope:

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/joy-feeling-too-nancy-iankowitz-dnp-rn-aprn-fnp-bc

Paying attention with an open mind, open eyes, listening ears and closed mouth is a skill worth mastering.  Right up there at the top of the list of how to build a safe and trusting relationship: avoid ‘multi-tasking’ when engaged in conversations with those with whom you want to nourish, feed and share love. Click here for additional thoughts on this topic.

Here’s to your healing adventure!  ~Dr. Iankowitz

The Mind Is More Powerful Than Most People Realize

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Even conventional medical practitioners recognize the strength of the intangible ‘mind’.  Just look at the placebo effect.  What was once believed to be ‘coincidence’ is now understood to be a useful tool . . . and the term ‘imagination’ is gaining new respect.

Once technology catches up with intuitive knowing, we will have means by which to satisfy all wellness professionals with  overflowing confirmation using  ‘evidence-based data’ to support what many, but not all, know to be truth.  At this point we have kirlian photography  and recognition of energy fields, Reiki,  and a wide range of holistic healing approaches that western medicine is beginning to embrace. Until we do have ‘hard evidence’ measured by scientific rules defined by our society, there is nothing to stop anyone from tapping into personal, internal power.  Begin here:

Creative visualization and imagery in health

For additional techniques, hints and tips, Holistic and Integrative Healing LLC is available. Dr. Iankowitz can facilitate your healing process by supporting and guiding you throughout your healing journey. She can work with or help you create a team of professionals, at your request.  Dr. Iankowitz can be reached (917) 716-6802 for consultation, by appointment only, so call in advance.

Healing Does Not Mean Erasing or Replacing

When the Universe breaks a promise, we grieve. Philosophers and psychologists have been all over this concept for hundreds of years and, yet, there is no single prescription to cure heartbreak. Further, there is NO truth to the phrase:  “Time heals all wounds.”   This is simply a LIE.

Time is indeed important, but what does it do, really? It permits distance from our trauma and an opportunity to discover coping skills to manage life going forward.  But wait – “distance”?  What is distance really?  How is it measured?  Love is not linear.  Loss is not written in a predictable, mathematical formula.  Click here to read about how one woman decided to deal with her own trauma – and how she documented her process.

If you accept that true love is the experience of safety, trust, and a glimpse of heaven . . . and that in your pure love you taste the essence of purpose and even a bit of the Divine, then you would logically conclude that a life without having this experience might, for you, have been a life not worth living. So, if that taste or glimpse was enlightening, but the partner who stimulated it is taken prematurely, in order to recapture that exquisite feeling, you would need to invest in people who might permit you to channel that positive energy again.

This honors the relationship that taught you how to love so deeply – although there will certainly be people around to try to distract you from continuing on with life.  Those people might prefer you simply ‘exist’ in the shadow of the memory – but this might be a distraction from what you were intended to do.  If you have a heart capable of loving again – LISTEN to it . . . SEEK OUT JOY and  embrace life to the fullest. You may begin by defining your goals – and this goes for any life event that is traumatic.

You may begin by asking yourself, “Do I want to get around, over,  through – or a combination of two or all of these regarding this experience?”

  • “What would ‘getting around it’ look like to me?”
  • “What would ‘getting through it’ look like to me?”
  • “What would ‘getting over it’ look like to me?”

I have come to understand that, when one defines a goal as ‘getting around’ a painful experience, the behavior chosen is usually to distract from or numb feeling.  This choice sacrifices joy along with pain.  When ‘getting through’ is the goal, the person looks inward, analyzes feelings, embraces the pain, seeks therapy and/or mentors to help guide, and has a greater chance of rediscovering joy.  Sometimes we begin by getting around, and then discover we need to ‘get through’ but time was necessary to permit us to muster the strength to do so.

The phrase ‘getting over’ is often misleading.  Sometimes it is experienced as abrasive, uncaring and demeaning. I would not recommend anyone use this phrase to oneself or another person as it is a distraction from healing.

Returning to the suggestion that when one feels emotionally ready, one should permit one’s heart to seek out JOY, am I suggesting you go out hunting for STDs or embark upon a path that exposes you to mind-altering substances?  No.  Not at all.  These are examples of numbing activities.  What I am suggesting is activities that enhance, rather than block ‘feeling’ . . . but, let’s take a look at that.  Why on earth would anyone who is ‘feeling too much’ take up a hobby to ‘intensify feeling’?

Excellent question.  The healing process is not one that helps us block feeling; but rather, it helps us embrace and focus on the POSITIVE feelings  that are overshadowed by the sad, uncomfortable, energy draining ones that threaten to throw the mind/body/spirit off balance.  Where does one begin?

Time.  Back to that word again?  Yes. Time is necessary – and in different lengths for different people.  Time permits grieving, and each person has a unique rhythm. Click here f’or additional information.

Healing. What does “heal” mean?  This is also defined by each individual.  Is the goal to erase all memory’?  Not the good ones – that’s for certain. But if one believes that feeling pain keeps a connection with the person now gone, re-framing to embrace JOY as the connection through positive memories is a response that permits the mind/body/spirit balance to reestablish itself. Easier said than done.

Coping. What’s the first step? Some people fill their schedules to avoid time alone and, for them, it might be helpful, initially. Others seek inner peace through meditation, exercise or other introspective activities. These people may take up yoga and find mentors to facilitate self-reflection.  If any coping mechanism is taken to distraction, a person may risk losing him or her self in the activity. If you, or a person you love is experiencing this type of ‘loss of self’ while grieving the loss of a loved one, here is a resource you might tap into to help yourself and/or assist that person:  click here.

What can we expect while healing through our grief process?  Tapes replay.  Pain is relived – yes, even DECADES later.  Old wounds may surface.  The self distraction of, “I wish we had,” and “I wish I said/ did/etc” creep into your mind to distract from present day joy. Does this mean you are not healing?  No. It does not necessarily mean that; however, if you lose more than a night or two of sleep, or experience anxiety to the point where judgment is impaired, seek help. Click here for support:   http://www.depression-test.net/depression-hotlines.html 

Permission to live on. What if someone gave you permission to go on living and loving? In your own time, you might be able to do just that.  But what if one or more people around you don’t accept once you arrive at your “ready” point? What if one or more people in your family or close circle of friends can’t accept your decision to embrace the life you have left to live on earth? What if someone you love and trust becomes one who brings you down?  If you are ready to move on and embrace joy, but outside forces attempt to block you, the time might have come to learn how to set healthy boundaries.  Wondering how?  Click here for some guidance.

Each life is sacred. Every path is a personal journey. I wish you balance and healing along your very unique adventure.

Additional resources:

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/joy-feeling-too-nancy-iankowitz-dnp-rn-aprn-fnp-bc?trk=mp-reader-card

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/lessons-from-spearmint-learned-going-against-my-nancy?trk=mp-reader-card

Your personal “joy” is just a few clicks away . . .

Perhaps you don’t get enough sleep. Or, maybe you ate too many pieces of cake last night. You are possibly becoming aware that you are falling into the patterns you promised yourself to avoid; for example, making the same errors your mother or father made – the ones you promised yourself you would NOT copy.

You know that it is your responsibility  to recreate your own balanced life based on healthy choices going forward – but you’re not quite sure exactly how to go about doing it.  What’s the first step?

If you are interested in learning how to 

  • own your own life
  • keep the beautiful lessons that fill your spirit
  • embrace the truth and let go of the lies
  • turn your back on what distracts you from joy
  • free yourself of other people’s baggage
  • live in truth and get to know your next best friend: GRATITUDE

Click here to discover a few hints and tips to help you get started.

Finding Your Center Is Proven to Improve Your Total Health and Wellbeing

Making decisions can be stressful and extraordinarily complex.  Children learn to choose between flavors of ice cream, adolescents choose between which outfits to wear and friends to trust . . . and young adults begin their journey towards independence by choosing paths that reflect varying levels of responsibility regarding profession and testing of some of life’s unforgiving limits. Decision making begins the moment we are born, and becomes more conscious and informed as we grow.  During a recent interview, Dr. Iankowitz shared how her decision making was impacted by her early years – including the role of her parents, how she processed her understanding of examples set, and how she is moving forward. Your comments are welcome:

http://elizabethscala.com/nurse-healer-helps-whole-person-balance-eps-009/

To review evidence-based statements encouraging relaxation for overall health, click here. 

There are mounds of data demonstrating that, on the cellular level, we NEED to relax.  It feels good for the mind, it nourishes the body and heals the spirit.  Tap into Dr. Hyman as an online resource, and feel free to explore Holistic and Integrative Healing LLC via Facebook for additional strategies.