“Home” For The Holidays (Part 2): Communication, Reading Signals & Avoiding Traps

Healthy Communication: “Take a Hint” (What Can One Safely Assume?)

  • When one is forced to use the imagination to fill in gaps after honest effort to seek clarification, is it safe to assume the confusion was somehow intentional?
  • When questions are appreciated, is it safe to assume clarification is sought in an effort to deepen a relationship?
  • When questions are regarded as ammunition and attacks, is it safe to assume those who regard them as such are frightened, lack trust, and/or wish to avoid closeness? Can one assume another prefers to avoid responsibility related to the situation at hand?

When a question is put forth, each person has decisions to make based upon the relationship. Without a shared history between two people, there exists no personal experience to draw upon. Even if ‘reputation’ precedes one or both, motives rise quickly to the surface by the ways in which clarification is handled.

Essentially, people who are able to be trusted find it easy to trust others; people who don’t trust others are defensive, often deliberately mislead others and basically hide from themselves by pointing fingers at those around them.

Trust vs. Mistrust: The Trap

When the predisposition (trust vs. mistrust) of each person is evenly matched, communication is usually mutually satisfactory. Two people who are able to trust and be trusted often discover they can build a potentially strong, fulfilling relationship. Two who are equally suspicious are often relieved that the other is well guarded, as this releases each of the responsibility to watch out for/ be sensitive to the feelings of the other.

Difficulties arise when the two people make opposite assumptions; that is, when a trusting person invests heartfelt energy into a discussion with one who (unbeknownst to the trusting person) does not trust or when a well-guarded person begins a conversation, expecting no responsibility, only to be hit with a clarification-seeking, over sharing disaster. On both sides, boundaries are not mutually respected. One feels slighted; the other feels invaded. Neither feels safe.

Trust vs. mistrust becomes the focus. This communication issue is magnified during the holiday season when friends and family members define their relationships in accordance with rules dictated by social obligation. ‘Social obligation’ breeds misery for all involved.

Sincerity vs. Social Obligation

When two people sincerely wish to spend time together, their mutual desire is demonstrated by reaching out, prompt responses, promises kept, and seeking as well as offering clarification to underscore heartfelt interest. Problems arise when either or both believe they ‘should’ meet, based upon social obligation. When people actually want to spend time with each other, the question of trust vs. guarded does not have to surface. Mutual heartfelt desire trumps all.

Success vs. Set Up To Fail

Every family and group of friends has at least one person who

  • May or may not show up at the last minute
  • Offers vague answers, even when specifically asked clear questions
  • Can’t be pinned down for a commitment and, if one is actually made, may or may not be kept
  • Always seems to have an excuse
  • Often states that those who seek clarification are ‘nagging’ or ‘insatiable’
  • Expresses s/he feels burdened by attempts on the part of others to secure a date, time or place to meet
  • Forces others to make assumptions – a dangerous practice for all involved

This individual earns the reputation of ‘untrustworthy’ especially when s/he reserves the right to fault others for any assumptions made. These slippery people offer answers that include, “I’ll make every effort to attend” then, when later asked directly what the plan is, negatively label those who seek a clear answer as they easily pin the ‘lack of meeting’ on anyone else involved.

Be Honest – Avoid ‘Traps’ Especially During the Holiday Season

  • When we extend honest, heartfelt invitations to people with whom we share a mutual feeling of safety – mind, body and spirit, acceptance of that invitation channels positive energy, excitement and joy filled hearts.
  • When we extend ‘social obligation’ invitations to people, they often feel it. Nobody looks forward to the gathering and all attempt to set boundaries to preserve personal safety.
  • When invited by people we really do not feel safe with, as stated above, they generally don’t feel safe with us, either. Our acceptance must include healthy boundary setting in a positive way. Tips: Limit time shared and communicate in advance regarding topics we prefer to not address (i.e. avoiding discussions that flame heat including but not limited to those surrounding sex, religion and politics)

Read the Signals

When inviting guests, watch for these responses so that you can minimize discomfort for all involved:

  • “I’ll have to see. I’ll let you know.” This suggests your invitation is either not a priority or the person has little or no intention of accepting, but can’t find the way to say “No” because of a feeling of social obligation.Your response: If you have thick skin and are very generous of spirit, you may leave the ball in the guest’s court, permitting him/her to later claim “Oh I forgot” or “I tried to reach you but . . .” This guest does not feel safe, for whatever reason, in your presence, so why add pressure? (If the relationship is valuable to you, wait until after the holiday season to pursue, in a neutral location, to see if you can reestablish mutual trust. If not, let it go and move on accepting you are each on separate paths along equally sacred journeys).
  • “My spouse/partner etc. . . . has another obligation. I wish we could accept your invitation but we can’t.” (This response may go either way. It is either a total fabrication – permitting the guest an ‘easy out’ or it is a truthful statement. If it is a fabrication, the guest either fears hurting your feelings, does not trust you enough to tell the truth and/or does not feel safe with you, but feels a degree of social obligation. If it is, in fact, true, then the person will follow-up by reaching out after the holiday to see how the event went. S/he might offer a heartfelt apology and engage in an honest exploration and sharing of thoughts and feelings regarding the holiday, and other items of mutual interest. (Lack of a follow-up call after declining an invitation usually indicates the person is uncomfortable with and/or has no interest in you).

Bottom Line To The Host and Hostess

Knowing how you feel, deeply and honestly, about each guest on your list is an important beginning to a healthy and happy holiday experience. If you have ‘social obligation’ invitations to extend, recognize that those people likely also feel ‘socially obligated’ to accept. Permit them the space, time and distance they require to accept or reject and, if you don’t really want to pursue a deeper relationship with them, just accept their answers, boundaries and excuses without further question.

Bottom Line To the Receiver of Invitations

Knowing how you honestly feel about the host, hostess and/or others on the guest list enhances your positive holiday experience. Accepting invitations to be with those we love is easy. Invitations from people we don’t really know or care about, realizing they feel the same way about us is also met with gracious ease, most of the time.

Difficulties may arise when social obligation further blurs a relationship that is already out of balance – especially when neither person (or only one person) is aware.

If, however, you receive an invitation and believe it is heartfelt, but you prefer not to put time, effort or energy into accepting, and you are not a slave to social obligation, then you might find it natural to decline respectfully offering a sincere plan to get together at a later date (if you so desire). Be prepared to share your reasons for declining the invitation (if you wish to have a deeper than ‘just acquaintance’ relationship).

Thanks for reading this post. I’d love to know if you relate to this and how you assess these points. Are they accurate for you? All comments are welcome. I wish you a healthy, happy, successful holiday season and a wonderful holiday season filled with blessings, healing, rekindling and reawakening.

Where Is “Home” For The Holidays? (Part 1) The Invitations

Holiday time emphasizes all that we have and all that we lack. It is a time of love and sharing. We solidify relationships, self reflect, and put effort and energy into beauty and joy.

Most focus on happiness and good cheer and, while everyone understands that the holiday spirit is dampened when we miss significant loved ones, too many fail to recognize the agony associated with other important, heart wrenching aspects of the season.

Silent Suffering

One example of silent suffering surfaces during the writing of guest lists. The question, “Should I invite my aunt?” may be followed by, “But my mom hates her”  OR  “I can’t wait to see her, but that will upset my dad!”

Another example of silent suffering surfaces when we receive an unwanted or ‘loaded’ invitation. For example, take this scenario: “We received the invitation from the Blah blahs, but I really don’t like the husband. Do we have to accept?”

Extending & receiving  invitations represent two examples of hidden energy sucking distractions that often complicate the spirit of celebration.

Mixed Messages Surrounding the Invitation

Home is where the heart feels safe. We naturally want to be where our mind, body and spirit feel peaceful, comfortable and relaxed. The unstated messages carried within an invitation range from “Do you feel safe with me?” to “I really don’t feel safe with you, but I’m compelled for another reason to extend this invitation.”

Thoughts surrounding acceptance range from, “Oh I can’t wait to catch up and see how they have been doing!” to “How much effort do I really want to put into being around these people?” or “How can I get out of this gracefully?” both paired with the thoughts about our level of comfort with respect to being honest about our feelings.

This might begin to address why accepting, rejecting and extending invitations may be so terribly complex for so many. ‘Social obligation’ is a powerful force and often imposes discomfort on those who prefer not to reveal lack of desire, lack of trust, and/or discomfort with the other party.

Uncomfortably Confused?

In reality, questions, comments and statements are open for interpretation. If the receiver is confused, clarification is sought – that is, if the receiver cares enough to ask. Failure to ask a question suggests any or all of the following on the part of the confused person:

  • Doesn’t want to reveal confusion
  • Doesn’t trust any answer that might be offered
  • Lacks interest in the answer
  • Hopes that lack of clarity will be able to be drawn upon later in an effort to avoid accepting responsibility for whatever the communication was

Redefinition of boundaries might be in order. If relationship goals are mutual, discussion includes honest, truthful clarification of expectations. When this is achieved, the positive energy bond grows stronger between the two who engage in this type of communication. Without clarification and open discussion, future invitations will likely be carefully examined before they are extended or accepted.   (See Part 2 for additional thoughts on this topic)

Living Your Dream May Begin With Getting Fired

Contact:  (917) 716-6802
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Have you mastered the art of LIFTING yourself up?  (Or are you better at BEATING yourself up?)
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Sometimes we buy into the negativity around us . . . and this is where we, in the nursing profession, need to devote time and energy.
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We need to maintain balance so that we can bring positive energy to the patients who invite us to join in their healing journey.  People ask our advice, and we need to see through a clear lens.
How can we do it?

There are answers all around us.  The teacher appears once the student is ready.  Have you considered tapping into your other strengths or even changing career focus?

Begin with self-reflection. Ask yourself:

  • What do I love?
  • Where do I enjoy spending my energy?
  • What type of rhythm (daily/weekly) do I REALLY want?
A story of my ‘failures’ . . . As I prepared to resign from a position that no longer suited my needs – is was fired . . . not once, but TWICE in my career.
My ‘happy thought’ became my letter of resignation.  I carried it with me for three weeks, planning to submit it – giving two weeks’ notice, when out of nowhere (it seemed to me) my ‘boss’ called me into the office and told me to leave.  Just leave.  I had patients on my schedule; in fact, one one was a follow-up from a surgical intervention.  The surgeon expected my assessment that very afternoon.
Upon my firing, I informed my boss of my schedule, asked for permission to see that patient, and respectfully requested that I be permitted to submit the letter of resignation I had been carrying around. My boss told me to ‘just accept being fired’ so I could collect unemployment (referred to as a ‘perk’ by that boss) – but I insisted that I preferred to resign as I had intended to do for weeks. I was then permitted to see only the post-surgical patient, but was not permitted to touch the computer. Notes were hand written at that organization, so that was not an issue.
I found it interesting that my immediate supervisor was as shocked as was I – the ‘firing’ was apparently equally surprising to both of us. Bottom line here:  the vibe leading up to that moment was hard for me to ignore – although my immediate supervisor, with whom I got along famously, seemed to miss it. Lesson:  trust your instincts.
That was firing #1 and I bless that situation for it inspired me to explore talents I didn’t know I had.  Fast forward to firing #2. Having mastered the art of following my gut, honoring my intuitive need to distance myself from vibes that distract from balance, I recovered from the second firing  by exploring what had been – to that point, previously untapped talents. I became motivated to fulfill even more dreams that, up to that moment, I believed were limited to my imagination.  Well, they became my new reality.
What’s the message here?  For every stone or boulder along the road, though your spiritual ankle might become twisted or you might otherwise feel knocked off balance, there is a new exercise to learn, or maybe even a new path to travel.
Life is a journey.  We need to be fulfilled personally and professionally in order to maintain balance of mind, body and spirit. I was honored to be invited to share a few pieces of my adventure with Elizabeth Scala on her podcast (below).  I hope it helps to inspire you.  If it does, it will make the difficulties I endured more meaningful to me, as there MUST be a bigger reason for my disappointments than just discovering my own light.  Here’s to YOU discovering YOURS.
Check out my new episode on the #YourNextShift podcast with @ElizabethScala!

 #Nursing Career Advice in a Fun & Upbeat Way!

It is also available via iTunes, and can be accessed there for free. You are welcome to download the free episode from the iTunes store and invited to leave some comments/reviews. The iTunes store link is https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/id1025968665.

Loneliness Is Contagious But You Don’t Have to Catch It

Some people aren’t even aware that ‘loneliness’ is at the root of their issues with weight, lack of motivation, depression and self-destruction.

People who are self destructive 

  • punish themselves for negative internal dialogue
  • hide from whatever reminds them they are not true to their own spirit
  • are often confused about how to be truly joyful
  • live in a way that is not open
  • actively hide from themselves – although they appear to be rejecting others
  • are generally not receptive to thoughts or ideas of others
  • either avoid contact with people OR  ‘over surround’ themselves with stimulation (i.e. social interactions mainly on surface levels – lacking depth of conversation)
  • participate in social circles with strict boundaries – permitting only those who won’t question or ‘rock the boat’ into their space
  • trust nobody

Loneliness is an internal experience – and is maintained when one perpetuates the villain/victim/savior scenario.

When the circle of friends is overwhelmingly made up of people to whom the individual feels either indebted OR superior, there is a red flag that self-esteem issues are at hand. People who have difficulty establishing professional boundaries are often doing themselves and their ‘clients’ a disservice.

If a person you care deeply for seems to fit any description here, recommending mental health support may or may not be appreciated – but it is worth a try.  Stay available, don’t take that person’s neglect of your friendship personally, and recognize that he or she is doing the best that she or he can.

The best you may be able to do is to wait patiently. For YOU it is important to avoid getting sucked into the toxic triangle that this type of person inevitably tries to pull you into.  Maintain your balance, minimize contact (if the person refuses mental health support) and remain available in case that person ‘awakens’ from the self-destructive patterns of behavior.

Click here to read more on this topic of loneliness and how to safely dissolve it.

Click here for a wonderful TED video.

If You Are Taking A Prescribed Medication For Stomach Acid (PPI) This Is Worth Reading

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Stomach distress and heartburn are not fun and may significantly impact your quality of life.

When these symptoms are treated as ‘problems’ rather than as ‘flags’ signaling greater problems, then the APPROACH to treatment becomes an additional cause for concern.

Dr. Susan Kolb  treats reflux by addressing the fungal overgrowth. She explains that she uses, “Nystatin oral solution to kill yeast affecting the cardiac valve along with Heartburn Free, a supplement that causes the valve to work better (orange peel extract) with good success.”  She avoids some of the popular prescriptions, noting that, “[r]educing acid with H2 blockers over time increases food allergies as well.”

Her approach recognizes that, “[w]hen amino acids do not get absorbed, one gets degenerative disc disease, rotator cuff issues, and other problems.” Her patient population is a unique group, “. . .  that is toxic from silicone and 100% of them have yeast overgrowth as well as malabsorption problems.” She uses Calorad or a broad amino acid supplement in many [of her] patients [and she addresses] the dysbiosis in the gut [that causes] leaky gut. All patients with immune deficiencies including those on chemoRx are at risk for these problems.”

Her entire approach to inflammation is wonderfully refreshing.  Feel free to look her up online.

Reminders as we continue with this discussion:

  • The mind often communicates with us through the body (i.e. anxiety, stomach issues, muscle tension etc).
  • The body communicates with us through pain and fever.
  • When we treat the ‘flags’ or ‘symptoms’ as if they are the actual problem, we risk silencing the valuable communication system, throwing off our mind/body/ spirit balance.

For more about how these bottom lines came to be, click here for Part 1, click here for Part 2, click here for Part 3.

The focus of this blog – Part 4:  

  • How the complex digestive system calls attention to itself
  • Evidence-based approaches to address underlying imbalances expressed

Gas, bloating, acid-reflux, “IBS” & “GERD”  FLAGS & SYMPTOMS often misunderstood & treated as if  they are the cause

Functional medicine addresses root causes.  As we age, our stomach experiences symptoms from naturally decreased acid (hypochlorhydria). Supplements may help.  Click here for an explanation and details about why and how.

When your symptoms include gas, bloating, and other discomfort of the stomach, and you are told “You have IBS”  (irritable bowel syndrome), the ROOT CAUSE is still yet to be addressed. Conventional medicine, however, stops at the diagnosis and prescribes an antacid, as if to ‘treat’ the symptoms.

Symptoms can’t be ‘treated’ . . . they can only be ‘masked’

Part of the approach functional medical doctor Dr. Mark Hyman MD takes includes analyzing food choices along with body responses, as well as the balance of bacteria that are present in the ‘gut’ of the individual patient. He addresses the ’cause’ and uses ‘symptoms’ to flag and guide.

Before offering a treatment, and certainly before prescribing a pharmaceutical medication, these factors are carefully assessed by functional medicine, and then addressed.  Click here to read more about how Dr. Hyman treats IBS.

Dr. Andrew Weil MD also offers interventions that include a wide range of evidence-based approaches to help patients heal stomach issues. If you are interested in herbal interventions, in addition to the other evidence-based recommendations he has to offer, click here.

The integrative medicine approach to GERD is to avoid PPIs (i.e  Prilosec, Prevacid, Nexium, click here for a more complete list) and to actually wean patients who are on them, OFF.  Click here for the current thinking and detailed rationale. As with ‘functional medicine’, the integrative medical approach addresses lifestyle, including diet and exercise, as well as what the patient’s body presents with (i.e. degree of stomach acid, organisms in the gut).

Pros and cons of over-the-counter and prescription antacids: The bottom line is that, while soothing of the symptoms does occur, long term use of these products is now known to contribute to bone fractures. Click here for research out of Forsyth Institute.

The above essay highlights ways in which your digestive system communicates with you through symptoms. It also suggests how functional and integrative approaches address the true causes, recognizing the importance of listening to rather than silencing the sophisticated ‘alert system’ your body has in place.

The bottom line is that there are many causes and ways of dealing with stomach issues.  When medication is the ONLY approach used and/or first line approach, the risks may outweigh the benefits.

Speak to your health provider about the information in this article and then, together with your provider, make decisions that are in the best interest of your mind/body/spirit balance.   It is your life.  Your journey.  Your body.  Here’s to your health.  ~Dr. Iankowitz

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About the Author: Dr. Iankowitz is an ANCC board certified advanced practice nurse, in private practice as founder and Director of Holistic and Integrative Healing LLC.  Dr. Iankowitz is the editor and author of several articles and books, and founder of Universe’Secretary.

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The Mind/ Body/ Spirit Connection and Internal Communication To Facilitate Balance

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The mind, body and spirit convey powerful messages through an intricate and very delicate communication system. The network includes, comfort, discomfort, anxiety, pain, fever and a host of other experiences that enrich life.

Some people carry anxiety in their necks or backs; that is, when we have a back pain, it might represent a structural issue (a trip to the chiropractor for diagnosis and treatment might help), OR indicate emotional tension, poor posture at the computer or dinner table, or might even be signaling a problem stemming from an internal organ (a trip to the doctor might be in order).  How can YOU tell what your own body is trying to express?

Click here to read about how the body communicates, how we can learn to listen, and what we can do to answer the call.

There Is A Cure – But You Must First Recognize The Condition

“Gas lighting” is just a symptom. It signals there may be a disorder which, once identified, may be treated.

If you read this far you might be wondering about a name or diagnosis that can dissolve the ‘problem’ – and that curiosity is healthy.  It suggests that you are interested in taking control – even if it is frightening to even entertain a thought that maybe you or a dearly adored loved one is afflicted.  There are tips to help, and resources to guide. Read on.

It began when your son married a woman who refused to permit him to call you.  (If so, click here) or maybe your brother now insists he can’t talk to you or even mention your name to his new wife because she is jealous, private or painfully shy. In fact, that is the reason offered for why they broke their plans on New Year’s Eve or couldn’t make it – at the last minute, to the family gathering.

It began as little hints that became clear only in retrospect. (Click here for additional information). As you review the pattern, you realize that the first step was: isolation and alienation of family members who asked too many questions.

Point: Until family members learn how to effectively help the afflicted member, they  typically tread very quietly and carefully around that person, don’t seek clarification, insist that nobody ‘rock the boat’ and basically behave as if they are prisoners in their own home.

In your case, you realize that, when invited to your home, they showed up late – more and more often until someone from that family was elected to ultimately call to cancel visits altogether. When asked about what happened, the elected representative offered what you now recognize to have been lies. (Click here for tools that may help).

For the next few years, that part of the family made only ‘social obligation’ appearances, then fabricated reasons why they couldn’t get together with the rest of the family at all.  They may have even gone out of their way to fill time slots during upcoming holidays or anticipated birthday or graduation events. They might have even offered to work special holidays or overtime, just so their excuse would be valid. Click here if you were no longer considered ‘nuclear family’ because you refused to walk on eggshells.

Your situation may have progressed to their refusal to accept phone calls, or they may ignore emails. You may believe they hope you just stop trying. You love them unconditionally, and may begin to think you did something wrong. Unfortunately, without the proper perspective and tools, if you reach out to try to find out what you did, the effort might not be fruitful. You might even be faulted for reaching out too much.

Perhaps this was the pattern, or perhaps you are experiencing pieces of it now.  Do you believe you might be in the middle of this nightmare?  If so,  help is available. You have already taken the first step:  recognition and questioning . . . read on. (Click here for advice on how to help a person suffering with this disorder).

This unfortunate scenario is a result of: Borderline Personality Disorder. Almost every family I know has at least one person with an extreme personality issue either in this or a related  category and, while we all experience occasional traits here and there, those afflicted with this particular disorder successfully surround themselves with enablers who sadly – even if well meaning, often become consumed by the toxicity.  The men in the lives of women suffering with BPD are traumatized and abused (as was indicated by a previous link).

Again, while we all relate to aspects of the villain/ victim/ savior scenario a few scattered times throughout our lifetime, people who suffer with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) function within this scenario as a daily routine.  It defines them and they default to defining others by it. They see the world through this distorted lens 100% of the time.

To those afflicted with BPD, every person must be placed in the role of either villain or savior while the one with BPD remains ‘victim’ – with an occasional redefinition to the ‘savior’ role, when absolutely necessary; for example, in the case wherein an enabler becomes a ‘victim’ during times of illness, accident or job-related difficulties, the person with BPD can become the ‘savior’.  While in this role, however, as ‘savior’ of the newly assigned ‘victim’ the person with BPD finds a way to reclaim the role of victim to those with whom communication is  secretly maintained. The person with BPD often states how difficult it is to care for or about the one recovering from injury or illness.  After all, the enabler was supposed to be the savior.  Now what?

Clues that help you figure out if you or other family members or friends are enabling the behavior:  enablers are the people who ‘excuse’ the one who has this disorder with labels such as ‘private’ and ‘shy’ – defending the ill person’s continued efforts to isolate, alienate, ignore & offend others.

Toxicity trumps all. If an enabler becomes injured or ill, that person has an interesting set of new circumstances to deal with. Click here to read more about that dynamic.  It is not uncommon for the enabler to become emotionally exhausted. If this happens, the enabler might refer to outside sources as ‘the villain’ so that the enabler and the one suffering with BPD can ‘unite’ against the common enemy as joint victims/ saviors.

The good news is that BPD can be successfully addressed, treated and maybe even cured by a skilled mental health professional, but only if the ‘patient’  is willing,  and has LOTS of family support and cooperation to set healthy boundaries. The supportive people learn how to not give in to unreasonable demands or tantrums by providing a gentle, consistent, reassuring and firm environment.  Family members can indeed help facilitate healing if they are willing and able to learn to accurately and non-judgmentally reflect the patient back to him/her self.

The sad news is, unless there are family members who are seriously dedicated to helping to heal this disorder, it can become a quicksand of toxicity capable of driving other family members to the brink of nervous breakdown.

Q: How do you know when you need to seek help so you can heal?

A: When it takes over aspects of your life, interfering with family gatherings etc., you need to pay close attention.

As  indicated above, we ALL have bits & pieces of many personality traits. The issue becomes apparent when isolation, alienation, teaming up, pitting against, splitting apart, turning others against, etc., are accompanied by that toxic villain/ victim/ savior (“us against them” or “me against you”) scenario, and when it is so deeply experienced that it breaks relationships apart.

Read more about how to help yourself and loved ones so that you can reclaim joy, comfort, peace and love:

Resource for help with BPD

How can I stop enabling this behavior?

Old Tapes That Need Review

Is Your Adult Child Borderline?

Here’s to your health, happiness, healing and balance of your mind, body and spirit.

Living With Diabetes? Consider Cinnamon

There are different types of cinnamon – and this is important for people living with diabetes.  Ceylon (from Cinnamomum Zeylanicum) vs Cassia (from Cinnamomum Cassia – or Cinnamomum Aromaticum) would be an important distinction if you were to explore this approach medicinally.  It is the coumarin (blood thinning properties)  which needs to be monitored.  That is, the ceylon cinnamon has less than the cassia species.  When taking medicinal amounts of cinnamon, one needs to be certain not to overdose on the coumarin.

Cinnamon comes in sticks as well as powder form.  The picture featured on this article is that of ‘cassia’.  For additional information regarding what you need to know about cinnamon if you use it medicinally, as well as to see a photo of the ceylon cinnamon click here . **

** Always consult with your primary health care provider before beginning a new or manipulating an existing food, medication, herb, or any practice that may impact your mind/body/spirit balance.

Nurse Practitioners Are Educated to Facilitate YOUR Healing Journey

Resume Updated April 2017 FOR WEBSITE 2017  If you want to accomplish any or all of these:

  • Lose Weight
  • Stop Snoring
  • Reduce Pain in Your Joints
  • Increase Your Energy
  • Understand Your Own Body Language/ Internal Communication
  • Interpret & Respect Signs as Signals (they facilitate your healing journey)
  • Learn To Address The ‘True Cause’ (rather than just the symptoms)

. . . begin by calling (917) 716-6802 for a free 10-minute consultation to learn about how Dr. Iankowitz can help you.

“A nurse practitioner is a nurse that is able to provide treatment and prescriptions without the supervision of a physician. The role began in Colorado because of the lack of doctors in rural areas. Nurse practitioners filled that need then, and continue to do so now.”

Click here to read more about the positive impact of nurse practitioners on health care.

Dr. Iankowitz is a family nurse practitioner with over 30 years experience providing care to patients. (Click here for CV).

Her goal is to take her role as nurse practitioner to the next level; that is, she builds a team approach that includes a primary care provider at the helm, and a group of licensed, certified professionals who are expert in their field to help patients along their wellness journey.

Here’s the shift:  Dr. Iankowitz will work with YOUR established primary health provider and/or help you build your team of professionals, upon your request. Call for a free 10-minute consultation to see what Dr. Iankowitz can do for you.  (917) 716-6802

Three Simple Steps To Write Your Own Life Script

Step #1  Identify what gives you joy & what blocks your joy

Step #2  Self-reflect honesty to discover your true potential

Step #3  Decide where you want to put your energy

Keep in mind that there are distractions along your journey to writing your own life script but YOU are in charge of the story.  It is the story of YOUR life.

Recognize that finding your center permits the Universe to channel wisdom that you already have inside of you.  Survival mechanisms are in place to save your life which, if misused, threaten your inner balance.  One example is described below:

Fight/flight vs. Meditation. While the fight/flight response helps protect us from physical danger, the meditative response protects us from spiritual attack.  Think about it.

The fight/flight response distracts from internal healing and resolution. It is as inappropriate a response to a bad mood as would be sitting in a lotus position in deep meditation on a train track when there is an oncoming train speeding in your direction.

Once you identify Steps #1-3, recognize that the secret to YOUR fulfillment is within you. Click here  for the LinkedIn version of a road map to tap into your wisdom and joy.

Namaste and continued blessings along your journey.