“Chess and Relationships – Healing the Great Divide”

What can a game of chess reveal about your ability to have a healthy relationship with yourself or another person?  Listen to what Dr. Daniel Cohen, PhD, retired family and marriage counselor and Director Emeritus of the NY Testing and Guidance Center has to say:



“When You Can Trust Another Person With Your Life, But Not With Your Heart”

Relationships are a two-way street. People involved in them need to agree on boundaries, and these are impacted by level of trust & respect earned and given.

The relationship you have with yourself sets the stage for your ability to effectively and satisfactorily relate to others.  When self-respect, self-esteem, self-trust and self-confidence exist, and are accompanied by emotional intelligence, a compassionate spirit, humble demeanor and ability to share and channel positive energy, others who are interested in the same are attracted to and sought out by you.

Problems arise when there is a mis-match; that is, when only one part is able to channel positive energy while the other is either an energy drain or one who otherwise ‘blocks’ that positive channeling.  The awakening on the part of the positive energy channel may take an hour, a day, a year or even decades – depending on many factors.  

Dr. Iankowitz and Dr. Cohen discuss how to get your scenario back on track.  Click here to watch the video.


“Are You Who You Are ‘In Spite Of’ or ‘Because Of’ Your Parents?”



Choosing Relationships: To Trust or Not to Trust – Why for Some, This Is An Essential Question



And here is Part 3:




The Brain Is Designed to Calm Itself

Aug 30 2017 Library Brain Calm

To watch a short piece of this presentation, click here.


“Wellness Re-Cap of Three Prior Broadcasts”



Safety in the Sunshine (Below)



In truth, our children are our most precious legacy.  Opening up lines of communication with children as young as 7 – 9 years of age (early as 2nd & 3rd grade) helps parents earn trust. It takes only 12 minutes of quality, interactive reading time to facilitate a relationship of respect, and communicate unconditional acceptance and love.  Each story in “Marcy and Her Friends” is under 1000 words, geared towards children in the 2nd & 3rd grade. Here is a sample of how one of the stories begins:



Marcy didn’t want to get out of bed to go to school. Click here to find out how Mom helped motivate her with gentle parenting techniques – using logic, kindness and understanding. The title of this story is:  ‘Marcy Changes Her Attitude’



Marcy tested her limits with Mom (in the video above). Find out how they both handled it.



The day was super-charged with excitement.  Marcy was preparing to go to sleep away camp – until she had a few important concerns. Find out how Marcy handled them and see if you can figure out how Mom could have done a better job helping her.  Click here to listen to ‘Marcy Goes to Sleep Away Camp’ from Marcy and Her Friends.


Visiting Day arrived! After counting 35 cars, Marcy felt like crying.  Where were Mom and Dad? Find out what cheered Marcy up and how trust was built. Listen below to this 8-minute story: “Marcy Cheers Up” from Marcy and Her Friends.


Marcy was very confused about why Mom wasn’t at the door when Marcy got home. What made it especially awful was that Marcy had something very important to share. Click here to listen to the story “I Know You’re There For Me” from Marcy and Her Friends.


Boosting The Immune System (presentation at Pawling Library, July 2017)



The team at WBXO Radio 102.5 Sunday Night Live (below) was warm, welcoming and fun to work with. A brief interview, live on-the-air featured “Marcy and Her Friends”, how the book came to be, and a bit about the healing it offers readers.  Interactive reading is essential because it helps adults engage with their 2nd & 3rd grade listeners, facilitating the book’s purpose: peaceful conflict resolution & building self-esteem in the next generation.